Monday, January 4, 2010
Since my last post I've divorced, been laid off, watched one chick leave the nest, started a new, very different job, earned 12 college units, taken a roommate, lost control of my credit, sold a car, blew up another car and took on a car loan! And almost that entire time, I've been in Home Modification Pergatory!
I'm finally feeling able to tackle my finances again and I'm happy to be back at it! I'm also quite glad to be blogging about it again. My financial situation is far more grim than it was in Spring 2008. It will be interesting to see how successful I am in my efforts- especially since I am on my own and not tethered to the world's biggest spender! (Not that I'm bitter or anything!)
Actually, I'm not bitter. I feel good about my past, my mistakes, my present, my path, my future. I'm on the move!
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
I want to share here what I wrote:
My two cents: Yes, Dave Ramsey’s solutions can sound very “one size fits all”, when of course, there are responsible credit card users. My argument against credit card use is a societal argument. Mike, you and the other credit card users who are getting rewards back, are not going to like what I have to say. While I don’t know the exact numbers and I don’t have the research to back up this up, I believe it is common knowledge that more people struggle with credit cards then master them. Given this fundamental truth, I believe that “responsible” users help the credit card companies perpetuate the myth that consumer credit can be a good thing. I am going to arbitrarily use the 80/20 rule here and make up an analogy to go with it! If heroin pushers offered “rewards” for using their drug, 20% of people would use heroin, reap rewards and suffer no ill effects. 80% of people would use heroin and become addicted and suffer all the horrible repercussions thereof. And the heroin pushers would laugh all the way to the bank. As a society, we have decided that a population of heroin addicts is not a good thing and we have outlawed heroin. I think consumer credit is exactly the same thing. I will go even further and say that the 20% who are being “rewarded” under this system are as responsible as the pushers are for the degradation of the 80%. There is personal choice and then there is social responsibility. I truly believe that consumer credit is a societal issue that this nation needs to address. Yes, fat chance, I know, especially as I seem to be the only person in the universe to hold this opinion!
I know this probably sounds crazy to most people, but nonetheless, this is my blog and this is where I get to express my opinion! I want to go one step further and ask you to substitute the word "heroin" for the word "credit card" everytime you see this phrase: "responsible credit card use". Hmmm, "responsible heroin use". If there is such a thing, I am pretty sure that it is pretty rare.
Anyway, tell me what you think!
Monday, June 2, 2008
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Thursday, May 22, 2008
So…if it’s so easy, why is it so hard? I don’t like to get too bogged down in the “why” of things, preferring instead to be more hands-on, but I must agree with Socrates that “The unexamined life is not worth living.” If I don’t see the things that trip me up, then it’s likely that they will continue to trip me again and again. I need to discover what it is that gets in my way and either eliminate it or use it. I hope to add more posts in the future on this subject, so I am calling this post #1. We will see if there are more!
One of my biggest stumbling blocks is simple inattention. I am easily distracted. I always have been and if I were a Gen X-er instead of a tail-end Baby Boomer, I probably would have been diagnosed in grade school as having ADD. My son has it and I’m pretty sure I know where he got it! This is true for all of the areas in my life--finances, weight loss, home management. Referring to the metaphor in my last post, I chart a course and I begin it well and then, like a child, I blithely chase off the path, distracted by a butterfly.
What distracts me the most is my need to create. Sewing, doll making, drawing, altered arts, calligraphy- whatever it is, I tend to get completely lost in it. I’ll go like gang busters for a week at a time and only do the barest minimum in the rest of my life- dishes and work and maybe a little laundry. Everything else get neglected, but when I am done I have this beautiful thing that will, I hope, bring a smile into someone’s face. I love that I have this gift and that I am good at these things. I love making something out of nothing! I love sharing what I’ve made and getting positive strokes for my creations. It is the most wonderful thing to hear that something I made has given someone a little joy. The downside to this kind of existence is finishing an art project and facing an empty fridge, cranky children, a very messy house and sometimes, an overdrawn checking account. That would usually be the point where I would lay down and give up.
There would be no problem, I suppose, if my husband would just devote himself to all the necessary bits of life and allow me to frolic about in the woods making art! There are only two problems with that scenario: one, my husband has his own butterflies to chase and two, I’m such a control freak that I prefer to be either completely in charge or completely in chaos, while at the same time refusing to hand the reigns over to anyone else. I consider myself to be very fortunate to have a husband who is fine with that!
There have been periods of my life where I have decided that my creating was frivolous and selfish and that I needed to spend more time on worthwhile pursuits. So I would pack up all my materials and sigh, and think, “Maybe when I’m retired, I will have time for this kind of thing.” Then I would dutifully “take up my cross” and be frugal, fit and organized. At first, the drive to do these things well would be enough to sustain me, but after a few weeks, life would become lackluster. The day-in and day-out routine of maintaining a frugal, fit and organized family would wear on my soul. I would sit in my orderly home and watch my family pursue the things that they wanted to do (making messes all along the way), while denying myself the things that I wanted to do.
So, now I am a tiny bit wiser and I recognize that my need to create is exactly that- a need and not a want at all. The trick, of course, is how to balance it with the other priorities in my life. After all, what good is a path if you don’t enjoy the journey? The butterflies bring beauty and joy! How do I stay on my path and still catch my butterfly?
The best solution I have at the moment is to widen my path. If art making is built into my path, then it becomes easier to stay on it. That is where my etsy shop comes in. Learning the concept of snowflaking has really helped me to look at my shop in a new way. When I opened it in August 2007, I had the naïve idea that it would help me achieve financial freedom by someday allowing me to quit my full-time job. I know- don’t laugh! When it became obvious that I could never produce enough quality items with my own two little hardworking, overbooked hands to ever be able to live by them, I questioned its purpose and considered giving it up. I am so happy to discover that I don’t have to do that. The fees on etsy are so small that I needn’t worry about losing money in the endeavor and instead, the few sales I do make will still help me achieve financial freedom by helping me to get out of debt. Now, that is realistic and it provides me with fresh enthusiasm to eliminate my debt and make more dolls.
The other thing I am doing to help me stay focused on my journey, is grooming my path. By that I mean that I am putting a concerted effort right now into de-cluttering and re-organizing my workspace at home. Since my workspace is also our dining room, it is very important that I organize it in such a way that neither function crowds out the other. Too dining room-ish and I can’t function as an artist. Too studio-like and we can’t eat together as a family. I have a built-in desk along one wall, but often find myself working at the table instead. That has to change so that even if I have a project in progress, the table is still available to us for our meals. I believe that whatever the circumstance, we can adapt to it to allow us to still reach our goals.
The last step I am taking in improving my path is posting road signs. Gathering Little by Little had a great blog post about this today. I am a big believer in visual reminders. I especially love the power of words and am incorporating them into my path in a few different ways. First, I have started this blog and since I am already a regular blogger at Tender Arts, it won’t be hard to remember to check in here as well. Second, I will be posting little notes around the house to keep me on track. I am scheduling an email to come to me weekly to remind me to post new notes in new places so the old ones don’t “disappear” in a sea of familiarity. Third, I have long wanted to paint my favorite quote somewhere in my house. Given my renewed enthusiasm for getting out of debt, I think this is the perfect time to do so. Right over my desk at home, I am going to paint these wise words from Winston Churchill:
“Success isn’t final, failure isn’t fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts.”
to remind me that even if I do stray from the path in pursuit of a butterfly or two, it is important to get right back on it and keep going.
- $200 added to my debt snowball.
- $200 into the emergency savings.
So excited! Speaking of excited, yesterday I found the most awesome free download! It is a Debt Reduction Calculator and you can download it here. You can enter in your credit card balances, the interest rate, the minimum payment and the amount of your snowball and it calculates a payment plan for you. Even better, you can tell it to calculate paying off the smallest balance first or the highest interest debt first, plus a couple of other options. Such a great tool!
I feel like yesterday I equipped myself (new job) for a long journey and then I found the treasure map (the calculator)! So....let's go!